Birthdays are supposed to be filled with joy, love, and warm wishes from the people in our lives. It’s that one day a year when we feel extra special, like the universe has placed a little spotlight on us. But today, on my birthday, I find myself feeling… blue. Despite the cakes, the balloons, and the promise of celebration, there’s one thing that’s missing: the birthday wishes.
To be honest, I never thought a few simple messages could mean so much. But this morning, when I opened my phone expecting to see notifications of “Happy Birthday!” from family, friends, or even acquaintances, I was met with silence. No calls, no texts, not even a social media post. Just quiet.
It’s hard not to feel hurt. After all, we spend so much time showing up for the people we care about, celebrating their wins, and being there for them on special days. When your own day comes and no one acknowledges it, it feels… lonely.
I’m not writing this to point fingers or dwell in self-pity. I understand life is busy—people have jobs, families, their own problems to deal with. But today is a reminder that, sometimes, we place too much weight on external validation. We rely on others to make us feel special, when maybe, we should focus on making ourselves feel special.
So, while I’m feeling a bit down right now, I’m also taking this as an opportunity to do something for myself. Instead of waiting for someone to tell me “Happy Birthday,” I’m telling myself, “Happy Birthday.” I’m going to indulge in my favorite dessert, go for a walk in the park, watch my favorite movie, and maybe even treat myself to something nice.
I’m learning that self-love is just as important as love from others. Maybe even more so. And while it stings a little that no one has taken a moment to send me birthday greetings, I know that my worth doesn’t hinge on that. My birthday is still worth celebrating—because I’m worth celebrating.
If you’re feeling down on your birthday or any special day because others haven’t reached out, remember that you’re not alone. It happens to many of us, and it’s okay to feel blue. But also take a moment to celebrate you. After all, birthdays are about you, not the number of notifications you get.
So, here’s to us. Happy Birthday to me! 🎉 And if you’re reading this and it’s your birthday too, Happy Birthday to you! Let’s take today to show ourselves the love we deserve. ❤️